Now I am a Mom with my own kids and my own issues. Nothing compared to these stories but I am trying a different approach. I am honest and it is hard.
I tell my girls a modified version of the shitshow so they don't have a false sense of roses when there aren't any but hopefully they aren't scared.
For example, I am pretty cashed out emotionally right now so when my car decided to not start at 7:20 on a work day with no warning and no one answering their phone I just came back into the house and sat on the kitchen floor and cried. Pussy response I know but I just had enough. Ava came over and hugged me. Olivia just walked away. She stuffs emotion and doesn't like people to see her cry.....she is my twin.
I just explained the car breaking was stressful and I didn't know what we were going to do but we would figure it out. Luckily my father-in-law rescued us with a jump start and took them to the bus so I could get to work.
On a side note, it was just the battery but that was a sweet $120 1 week before Christmas. YAY!!
I did make sure I explained to the kids after school that is was an easy fix and the car was all better.
So the question is: How much do you tell your kids or let them see?
I don't hammer them with the tough stuff but I think they need to see a little struggle. They need to see the work involved in making our family work and I also hope they see us persevere.
Hey kids, shit isn't going to be handed to you. Sometimes you will fail and sometimes the fact that you keep trying is more of a success that succeeding the first time in my eye.
Also I need to teach them that it is ok to cry. Mostly because I need to learn it too.
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