Thursday, February 17, 2011

Congratulations you are Un-married.

So I posted a month ago, I think. I don't read my own blog. I write, purge it and move on-sometimes.
Anyway, in the great state of Massachusetts if you are uncontested (meaning both of you want the divorce) after you stand in front of the Judge and once again say I do (understand who gets what) they still hold the paperwork for 30 days until it is officially filed with court.
That day is Friday February 18th. We will be finalized in 90 days.
It seems like forever ago that all this happened.
I have been feeling like I need to get over myself. It is time to stop blaming things on the divorce and do something.
I just talked with someone about the last year and how it was a hard year for us and how the kids took some hits. They are doing good but I guess it is no longer an excuse. What the hell am I going to do-Fucking wallow for ever? We need to get up, brush ourselves off and make this a life again.
I have to admit now it feels like I am doing things with 1 arm. Everything takes longer to do. I can't do it all, I don't have any strong arm help and my budget is not going to get any bigger. But I am also starting to think-Suck it up. People live with 1 arm all the time and they adapt. 
It is my life now.

4 comments:

Barry said...

You can use my arm now and then. Just yell.
I'm Sorry and congrats at the same time. Turn the page.

Darlene @ Connecticut Weight Loss Surgery said...

well, as long as your consciousness is clear,it is you the highest authority you have to report to :),so you must be happy with your life and not giving in to society pressure..so,congrats, not a lot of women have to power to do what you did.take care!

Gia's Spot said...

And I always have an extra arm or a leg as long as I am not working, ask is the word!!

Anonymous said...

Jen... I was where you are. Fast forward 10 years(it goes quick)....I am happier than I ever was in my life. I wish this for you too. Barb

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