It started with me singing my wedding song on the way to work. Brian McKnight. I kept thinking I still sort of agree with it. In the song he sings about starting back at step one when you think you have finished the steps and I still agree that you need to just keep re-investing in a relationship to make it last.
Then I began to think how my Ex just had no clue what that was about. He applied for a job he was way unqualified for and I accepted his application. Silly me. Then when he began to slack I carried him.
Is it his fault? No, I believe it is both of our faults. I don't write about these things to talk badly about him but quite the opposite I talk about it so that I can learn from it.
Scariest shit in the World?
You need to up your application process Miss Berry. You need to find a person who can carry his own load and keep a hand on your ass while you carry yours.
Not impossible and you are totally worth it.